The Relationship Between Intended Parents & Their Egg Donors

Becoming an egg donor isn’t a decision that most people take lightly – it is a complete gift that you are giving to a person or persons that they cannot, for whatever reason, give themselves. This is a selfless act that not only allows you to change lives but make one in the process. One of the most unique relationships that we have seen is that between the egg donor and the intended parents.

While a trustworthy surrogacy institute will support the relationships so that they are easy, safe, and enjoyable for both the intended parent or parents and the egg donor, there does need to be some mediation, no matter what. As the egg donation process becomes more common in today’s society, you would expect that people are more knowledgeable about those relationships, but they aren’t. However, you will find that it can be one of the most interesting and beautiful relationships that you cultivate.

Do Egg Donors Get Attached To The Child?

One of the most common questions we get from both egg donors and intended parents is whether or not the egg donor will want to meet the child. In most cases, the answer is no. 

For most egg donors, they don’t feel attached to the child because they are simply donating eggs that they weren’t going to use. Many donors experience a total disconnect from the eggs they provide. Safeguards are put into place to prevent the egg donor from experiencing a sense of loss.

Before donating eggs, donors are educated about every step of the process. They are extensively screened for any inclination that they may form an attachment to the donated eggs. While we can never guarantee how someone may feel, we work extremely hard to ensure that everyone is prepared to proceed and will be comfortable with the outcome.

Do The Babies Conceived With Donor Eggs Resemble The Donor?

Babies who are conceived using donor eggs will carry the DNA of the donors, and thus will have similar features to that person. This is why intended parents will often select donors based on physical attributes, ranging from hair and eye color to ethnicity. Often, they will try to choose an egg donor who has features that are similar to those that they themselves have.

Intended parents may also select an egg donor based on her personality or educational background, hoping that some of those genes will be carried on as well, such as high intelligence or the ability to play an instrument. While there are no ways to guarantee this (just like there isn’t with a traditional pregnancy), it is still something parents do look for in an egg donor.

Legal Relationship Between Intended Parents, Egg Donors, And The Baby

From the start of the egg donation process, egg donors will remain anonymous as much as possible. There are some rare instances where both parties will agree to reveal their personal information or allow communication between the intended parents and the egg donor, or even an in-person meeting. 

Keeping this in mind, it is important to note that carefully drafted contracts between the egg donor and intended parent or parents state that the egg donor does not have any legal parental rights over the offspring that result from their donation. Unlike in surrogacy, where the surrogate does know personal information about the couple she is helping, intended parents will almost always remain anonymous to the egg donor.

The only information the donor will get is that her eggs were used, the family type (married or not, gay or straight, single or a couple), and where the family lives in the broadest sense: either in the United States or elsewhere.

Ready to Become An Egg Donor?

Are you ready to be an egg donor? Become an Egg Donor in Long Beach. Contact EDSI today to get started – we will walk you through every step of the process so that you don’t feel lost or alone. Instead, you will help you to make a decision about whether or not this is for you and from there, we can help you through the easy medical process and the follow-up.


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