We live in an age where social media is always present, whether or not you are on it. You may not have an Instagram account or a Twitter account, but your friends do and they may take pictures and put them online. Of course, most of us do have Facebook accounts, so social media is never too far. But how can you manage your social media accounts and what gets posted during your San Diego surrogacy (or surrogacy anywhere)?
Or maybe you are really active on social media and don’t want to have to play the “newspaper game” that many people do on sitcoms, where you have to hide your belly. Social media is a great resource for surrogacy – you may have found us through social media – but it can be tricky to navigate what is appropriate and what isn’t for all parties involved.
You Won’t Be Forced To Hide Your Surrogacy
Many women are afraid that they won’t be able to be authentically themselves when they are surrogates, but that isn’t the case. You will be able to take pictures with your family, show off your growing bump, and let people know that you are a surrogate – this is a miraculous gift and it is something to share. Whether your social circle is just the people you know and love or you have thousands of followers from across the world, you will be able to continue what you are doing online.
In fact, we encourage surrogates to take pictures, share their experiences, start blogs, and generally document everything that they can.
What You Cannot Post On Social Media As A Surrogate
When you are a surrogate mother for intended parents, there are some things that you do not want to put on display. Many of these things will be discussed with you, and some of them are negotiable! Some intended parents are fine with information about them being put online (after a certain time) and others do not want their names out there. This is a relationship and conversation you will need to have with your caseworker and the intended parents. Remember that this is reciprocal – the intended parents will have to abide by rules as well.
Some things you may need to talk about include:
- Are both parties comfortable with their names being used in social media posts? How about last names?
- Are you both comfortable with your photo being shared?
- Once the child is born, how should that relationship be managed then?
- Should the intended parents and surrogate be connected by social media?
- What updates are okay to share, and which ones aren’t?
- What level of interaction is okay? (Tagging, Mentioning, Liking, Sharing, etc.
Using Social Media For Good
If you are a surrogate, no matter where you are, you want connections and relationships with other surrogates who may be dealing with some of the same things you are facing. At EDSI, we ensure that our surrogates have long-lasting, healthy relationships with each other throughout surrogacy and beyond. One way to do this is through social media – you can create Facebook groups, establish group chats, follow each other on Instagram, and so much more.
Still, you will only have to do what you are comfortable doing – no one will force you to do anything.
Ready To Start Your Surrogacy Journey? Contact Us Today
Finding the right fit can be quite difficult, and as this is a big decision to make taking all the time you need to make those decisions is imperative. We are here for you whenever you make that choice. We are happy to give you more information now or schedule your consultation.
Surrogacy is an extremely rewarding experience that will change your life forever. If you are ready to get started on the surrogacy process, make sure to contact us today.