If you are a parent who is looking to use surrogacy for the second time, you probably already know the basics about becoming a parent. You know that the surrogacy process can take some time. Many people who become a parent once through surrogacy decide to do it again, especially if they have worked with a reputable surrogacy agency. However, there are some people who did not like their experience the first time and want to find a new agency.
Whatever your story may be, using surrogacy for the second time may feel like going through the same system all over again or it can feel brand new. The goal of any surrogacy agency, no matter where they are or how they operate, is to make this an experience to remember for the best reasons. Still, there are some things you may want to know about using surrogacy for the second time:
Using A New Agency
Using a new surrogacy agency is a bit like getting a new job in the same field. It all feels the same, but there is just something a bit different about it. While most surrogacy agencies operate in similar ways, you might notice some differences. First, there are the costs: each surrogacy agency determines its own costs. You might also notice the way you are treated is different. Some agencies try to remain sterile and a bit colder while others take a homey approach to it – you have to determine what works for you.
The best agencies will be able to adapt to your personality and give you the support that you need – but it can always benefit you to have a frank conversation with the new agency to discuss what you want.
Using A New Surrogate
The biggest transition for people who have used a surrogate before, and are moving to a new agency or to a new surrogate, is the relationship with said surrogate. You might have grown accustomed to the way that your previous surrogate behaved and the information that you received, whether you liked it or not. Trying to forge a relationship with a new surrogate requires time. If you are an intended parent starting over with a new surrogate and she is brand new as well, you might have to go through a process to warm up to each other. If she has been a surrogate before, this process is likely to go faster.
Work with the surrogacy agency to help you foster that relationship, whether you think you need help or not. Having an open, honest relationship with your surrogate can help to make the process that much better for everyone involved.
Using The Same Surrogate
If you plan to use the same surrogate, you first have to make sure that she is available. Sometimes, surrogates will have health changes or just decide not to go through the process again – and they are not required to do so. However, if you do plan on using the same surrogate again, know that it may cost you more money and the experience may be different. Your surrogate may not be available.
Sometimes the same surrogate cannot get pregnant again – after all, some time has passed. Still, if you want to use the same surrogate, it is certainly possible in many cases.
Ready To Start Your Journey?
If you are ready to start your journey as an intended parent or as a surrogate, contact EDSI today. Our goal is to make the process enjoyable and easy, whether you have already gone through the surrogate process or if you have not. The journey is a long one, so getting started as soon as you can is always the best bet. However, at EDSI, we are always here to work with you and your family.