At first glance, the surrogacy process might be a confusing one for people who haven’t gone through it before now. And it is – especially for the people behind the scenes that are doing the medical work. However, it should not be complicated for the surrogate, the egg donor, and the intended parents. When working with a top-rated surrogacy agency in California, you should not have any questions or concerns that go unanswered.
Still, it is probable that you have some misconceptions about the process. In fact, there are probably things that you just don’t know. Here are some of the most common ones that we see:
You Can Be A Surrogate More Than Once
One thing that many people don’t realize is that many surrogates enjoy the process so much that they are surrogates again and again. Sometimes it is for the same family, and other times they are surrogates for multiple families. While women cannot be surrogates an infinite amount of times, they can go through the process a few times.
For those that have been surrogates before, they know the process and what to expect. They are also more in demand: intended parents inherently feel better when working with them. It is important to note that they also tend to make more money.
The Surrogate Mother Doesn’t Donate Her Eggs
In the past, surrogate mothers donated their eggs as well as their uteruses for surrogacy. However, that led to some problems when the baby was born and in the post-partum process. Nowadays, the surrogate almost never uses her own eggs. Instead, an egg from the intended couple is used or an egg from an egg donor. The egg is joined with sperm (either from the intended parents or a donor) and implanted into the surrogate mother.
You May Not Get Maternity or Paternity Leave
Even just a few years ago, intended parents who used the surrogacy process to have their child didn’t get the maternity or paternity leave that their coworkers were entitled to without third party assistance. While some still don’t, the number of companies that are willing to give time off to bond with the baby after birth is increasing. This could be because the number of surrogate births is increasing or because there has been a lot of research into the fact that it is the time after the baby is born that is most impactful on creating a bond.
Surrogacy Is Only For Celebrities
It is true that there is a cost associated with surrogacy and that many of the people who get publicity for surrogacy are celebrities. However, it is not only for celebrities. In fact, the number of people who use surrogacy who are just common, everyday people is much higher than celebrities. You don’t have to be a celebrity to use surrogacy. They don’t get to jump to the front of the line with surrogacy agencies or surrogates. You get to make the choice for the surrogate that you want to work with and she gets to choose you in return. Surrogacy agencies don’t “hide away” their best surrogates and wait for someone famous.
You Will Create A Lifelong Relationship
While surrogates do get paid, there is also a benevolent side to them. They want to help intended parents create a family. This isn’t someone who is going to hide away for nine months. Instead, the parents will be there throughout the process. They’ll get medical updates, pictures, and may even form a relationship with their surrogate. In many cases, this is a relationship that will last a lifetime. While this isn’t always the case, and the surrogate may decide to walk away once everything is over, often they are interested in keeping up some connection moving forward. If this is something that the intended parents want, they will get to choose that when they start their surrogate search.
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Surrogacy is an extremely rewarding experience that will change your life forever. If you are ready to get started on the surrogacy process, make sure to contact us today.