Tips For Fostering Communication Between Surrogates & Intended Parents

Starting any new relationship can be difficult, whether it is a romantic relationship, friendship, or even with a coworker. Starting a new relationship between a Surrogate Mother and the Intended Parents of the baby she carries is even harder because you likely don’t have experience in this type of relationship. 

While EDSI will help you to build up a relationship that meets both of your needs, there are some tips you need to know about fostering communication and ensuring that everyone feels safe and involved in the process:

Determine The Type Of Communication You’d Like

There are different types of communication that you can try within this relationship. Some people like to exchange phone numbers and keep in contact that way, with rules about calling or texting. Other people prefer to talk when they are at appointments. One of the more popular options is to communicate via email.

Determine The Amount Of Communication You’d Like

Before you even choose a Surrogate, you should know how much communication you’d like with that person. The Surrogate will be told that information before she agrees to work with you. Some people will only want communication around the time of appointments, even though they will get updates from their case workers, it calms them to hear the information directly from the Surrogate.

Other people want more frequent updates directly from the Surrogate – it all depends on what everyone is comfortable doing.

Try To Keep Communication Positive

Another thing to consider is the tone of voice you use and how the conversations go. You don’t want to have angry or sad conversations with each other, especially if there is something going on – let those more intense conversations be handled by the agency and caseworkers.

If there is information that needs to be shared, absolutely share it, but anything that is extreme should come from the agency.

Be Clear When You’re Speaking

This is a difficult time for a lot of people, and clarity is extremely important when you have those conversations. It may be best to write down a list of topics that you want to cover before you write your email or speak on the phone. This can help to ensure you don’t have to make multiple calls.

Don’t Be Afraid To Include Your Caseworker

At EDSI, our caseworkers have a lot of experience in handling relationships between Surrogates and Intended Parents, which means we have seen it all. If you have any issues with communication, we are there to help you. However, problems are extremely rare as we work to ensure that everyone is on the same page before starting the surrogacy journey.

If things do get tough, or you just want to know more information about what is going on, our case workers can help you get the information that you need.

Ready To Start Your Surrogacy Journey? Contact Us Today

Finding the right fit can be quite difficult, and as this is a big decision to make taking all the time you need to make those decisions is imperative. We are here for you whenever you make that choice. We are happy to give you more information now or schedule your consultation.

Surrogacy is an extremely rewarding experience that will change your life forever. If you are ready to get started on the surrogacy process, make sure to contact us today.


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