Do You Want to be a Surrogate: Questions Potential Surrogates Are Afraid To Ask

Do You Want to be a Surrogate: Questions Potential Surrogates Are Afraid To Ask

If you are thinking about becoming a surrogate mother, it is highly likely that you have many questions and concerns. This isn’t something that someone should undertake lightly: you want to look at it from every angle. Before you get started, it is important to understand the commitment and process of surrogacy.

Here are some of the questions that surrogates are often afraid to ask:

What is the difference between traditional surrogacy and gestational surrogacy?

This is one of the most confusing aspects of surrogacy. In the United States (and in most countries around the world), what most people think of as traditional surrogacy doesn’t exist. In traditional surrogacy, the genetic material used to create the baby is that of the surrogate mother. In gestational surrogacy, which is what most agencies use, the surrogate becomes pregnant using the eggs of either the intended mother or through egg donation, not her own.

What are the benefits of becoming a surrogate?

While we certainly want people who want to become a surrogate out of the goodness of their hearts, it is also important that you understand there are benefits. In addition to financial compensation, you will feel a deep sense of satisfaction from helping another family. This is one of the most selfless ways to give to another person. Many people will form life-long relationships with the families that they work with – and create friendships with other surrogates.

What are the risks of becoming a surrogate?

There are some risks associated with being a surrogate, including all of the common medical risks that come with pregnancy. Your surrogacy professional and the fertility specialist that you work with will help you to understand these risks. You will be compensated according to this risk and for any complication that may arise during the process.

In addition to physical risks, there may be some emotional risks involved. While most surrogates have enough support throughout the process that they do not have any problems, they can occur. 

How much contact will I have with the intended parents?

It is up to you to determine how much contact you will have with the intended parents (IPs). Most intended parents do want to be a part of the process and want to receive updates as often as possible. This is how the long-term bonds can be formed that will last far after the baby is born. However, it is possible to have a limited amount of contact as well.

How many embryos are transferred?

The number of embryos that will be transferred to you will be predetermined and outlined within the surrogacy contract. It will also list how many transfer attempts you will complete. If you are comfortable carrying multiples, you may get two or three embryos transferred at a time. Once again, this is all about your choices.

What happens if I don’t become pregnant?

If you do not become pregnant, there are no repercussions for you. You will not start receiving base compensation until you are pregnant, but you will not have to pay any sort of fine or face financial repercussions. If everything still looks healthy and good, you will be able to proceed with another try.

What happens after the baby is born?

After the baby is born, the surrogates will have full control over the birthing process. Once the baby is born, the intended parents will have full parental rights. It is likely for you to feel a mixture of emotions, and you will have support after the birth and when you start to heal. 

From there, you will always share a very important connection with the intended parents and the child. You may choose to maintain an ongoing relationship with the family as the child grows or you may choose to move on with your life. In some cases, the surrogate may work with the family again.

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Surrogacy is an extremely rewarding experience that will change your life forever. If you are ready to get started on the surrogacy process, make sure to contact us today.