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What to Expect When Your Surrogate is Expecting

Your gestational surrogacy journey is one of the most exciting endeavors that you will undertake – throughout that time, you will feel hopeful, joyful, and prideful about the life you are creating for yourself. At the same time, however, you may feel anxious and even uncertain – it wouldn’t be unusual if you have lingering questions about everything. For many intended parents seeking San Francisco surrogacy, the most significant source of anxiety is the pregnancy itself. Often, they aren’t aware of what a surrogacy pregnancy entails or what is “normal” for each stage of the process. So we seek to answer that question – what you should expect when your surrogate is expecting?

It is important to remember that the surrogacy process is multi-layered and extremely complicated. If we can remove some of the anxiety you experience through the process, it will help you to sit back and enjoy the ride – which is why we want to explain as much as possible. Still, remember that every pregnancy is different.

What To Expect When Your Surrogate Is Expecting: Phase 1

The first phase of surrogate pregnancy is the embryo transfer – typically, this will come after several months of meeting potential gestational carriers, learning more about each other, signing legal forms, and preparing for the transfer and pregnancy. While some people will view this as the start of the process, it is the end of the beginning and the start of the next significant step. 

Embryo transfers have come a long way and are highly successful. Now, there is always a possibility of a failed transfer, so you need to be prepared for that as well – it will be disappointing to both you and the surrogate. Please try to offer your surrogate reassurance and compassion if this occurs.

When the transfer is successful, it may take some time to get confirmation. You should not put pressure on the situation and avoid asking your surrogate if she feels pregnant or requesting at-home tests. The goal should be to keep your surrogate free from stress. 

Once Pregnancy Is Confirmed

After all of your patience and waiting, your surrogate should be confirmed as pregnant. Traditionally, you will feel a great sense of relief. Achieving a viable pregnancy is undoubtedly something to celebrate, but now you are most likely in uncharted territory. Most surrogates will have an uncomplicated pregnancy, but it can be unpredictable, so you will want to proceed with caution.

During the first trimester or the first 12 weeks of the pregnancy, you may not see many physical changes in your surrogate. Everyone is excited, however, and your surrogate is likely feeling the symptoms of pregnancy. She may be tired or more emotional than you remember her being; this is all normal. Everyone expects her to gain weight, but she may lose weight if she has morning sickness.  You can support your surrogate through this time by checking in and continually expressing your gratitude. While it is not required, providing her with a small gift could be helpful. Now is the time to solidify your relationship with your surrogate. 

What To Expect During The Second Trimester

Now is when it might get really exciting – your surrogate will start to show, and she may even feel the baby move. Around week 20, you will have what is likely one of the most touching experiences of your journey: you will physically be able to see the development of your baby in the womb in an ultrasound. 

Your surrogate has likely evened out emotionally, but she should be seeing the doctor frequently to monitor the development of the pregnancy. With the best surrogacy doctors, potentially adverse conditions are often manageable.

Once again, don’t forget to treat your surrogate every so often. As she stops being able to move as freely as she could before, now might be the time to help her feel comfortable in her skin.

What To Expect During The Third Trimester Of Surrogacy

The third and final trimester is one of the most exciting times – you can practically feel the energy in the air for both the surrogate and the intended parents. Now is when you should start thinking about your plan – do you have a nursery ready? Clothing? A surrogacy agency can help you to plan travel arrangements and mediate how the relationship will continue after birth.

For your surrogate, while she is excited, she is also likely tired and uncomfortable. Many women have difficulties sleeping and have pains during this period. One thing we suggest is that you email your surrogate, allowing her to answer when she is awake – you never know when she might be catching some shut-eye.

Ready To Start Your Journey?

If you are ready to start your journey as an intended person or as a surrogate, contact EDSI today.